Category Archives: Love

Single Life: I’m Not a Player I Just…

Hmmm which one applies to me: I’m not a player I just f*ck a lot? I’m not a player I just lust a lot? Or I’m not a player I just date a lot because I can’t seem to find what I want? All three have applied to me at some point in my adulthood. Hell, if I’m being honest, they still do! But, as of late I’ve entered into my prime and though I’m uncertain of how long it will last, I am sure that it’s going to be a great time to be alive. Continue reading

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A Single Life: The Quest…

Picture this: You’ve just broken up with your girlfriend – yes, the one that you swore up and down that you were going to marry – and you’re about to be single again. What do you do? Where do you go? How do you learn how to walk again? For four years I’ve had to build, destroy, and then rebuild again. It hasn’t been easy but when was it ever? Continue reading

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A Single Life: The Journey

For some, the single life is a bit too much. Some believe that being alone is reflection of romantic ineptitudes while another percentage of the population rides the wave. I know how it feels to be in both positions. Moments of self loathing wondering what in the hell was wrong with me and then through self exploration coming to the realization that all of my problems were all self made projections. Continue reading

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The Arrival of “Cuffing Season”

It’s mid-August and the summer is nearing it’s annual completion. Fun times in the sunshine are quickly fading and all of those flings are flung. All of a sudden it starts to sink in that once the seasons change, you don’t want to be alone when it’s cold outside while everyone else has love connections. From an outsiders standpoint “Cuffing Season” sounds ridiculous. A time period where you find a companion for the sole reason of NOT being lonely during the colder months is a bit funny but let me tell you, as a single “classic” man, it’s no joke. Continue reading

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Thinking Like Marcus Graham…


As a film, Boomerang contained vital information for my everyday life, well dating life. You can’t be a player forever. Everybody has their time and if you wear out your welcome, the sweet taste of defeat will Street Fighter 3 Third Strike Makoto leg sweep you off of your feet. Janet Jackson told us years ago that “That’s the way love goes”.  As a single guy in a society where dating has become more complicated than ever, I have to keep myself in a stable frame of mind. Am I a player? I don’t think so but others assume differently. Maybe it’s because I haven’t settled down yet and I won’t until I find the one that feels right. I could find her tomorrow or years from now but that’s what makes it all worth it. Continue reading

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Single Life: They Wanna Be Seen On The Scene….

Whenever I move around the town more often than not, I run into good friends and associates especially in the Rittenhouse Square area of town. After spending most of my afternoon sweating and busting my ass while moving into my new apartment, I had to make my way downtown to handle a bit of business (get a SEPTA transpass for the week and hit OMOI ZAKKA for candles). Fortunately for me, while on this trip, I ran into the homie Quality Tom, who was just about to go on break from his gig in the city. Before I get into the meat and potatoes of this post, Tom is officially the plug since he put me on to a pair of Nike Roshe Runs from Buffalo Exchange that only cost me about $30. Me and the Nike Swoosh are going hand and hand in this summer. Continue reading

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Dealing With The Young Girl Blues

The internet went into a rave over Tyga and Kylie Jenner’s rumored relationship. The 25 year old Tyga allegedly dating a 17 year old had many of you shaking your head in disapproval and trust me, I too thought that was wack if that is indeed the case. If I had a daughter that wasn’t old enough to vote, there’d be no way in hell that I’d be cool with her hanging out with a guy in his mid-20s. That’s grounds for a Wu-Tang style showdown. But it made me think for a moment, of my personal experiences with dating younger women (who were all of legal age) and the pros and cons. Continue reading

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Essential Reading: Pocket Erotic: The Ecstatic Secrets of Sensual Massage

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Yeah Valentine’s Day is over but so what… A lot of brothers out there are slacking on their mackin’ and offer nothing new in the bedroom and the ladies are out here trying to compensate by reading books like 50 Shades of Gray (I heard the movie was trash but whatever) just to get their groove back. Now me, on the other hand, I’m more than well versed in game of four play but I as a student of life, I always make sure that I bone up (no pun intended) on new things, especially sex related. A couple years ago, I ran across this little gem in a book store on South Street that has been long shut down and it’s made my life a better place. To all the guys out there, dig this… you have to switch it up… step away from the wannabe porn star moves and thinking that it’s all about you… She’s there too and the experience of “getting busy” is a much about her as it is about you so do yourself a favor and take time to understand her body and how to please her… Pocket Erotic: The Ecstatic Secrets of Sensual Massage by Nicole Bailey may up your game 100%. I’m not only a member, I’m the cot damn El Presidente…

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Is It Possible To Love More Than One Person?

I used to associate polyamory with mormons and African chiefs. I envisioned one guy married to a Native Tongue collective sized group of women and that freaked me out. I couldn’t see myself in a house full of multiple wives and children while managing to spend quality time with them all. I don’t have that type of time nor patience. I barely know my own name and you think that I’ll be able to memorize 10 other ones? NOPE! There aren’t enough Matrix red pills to pull off such a feat. But as of late, I’ve been thinking… Could I love two women equally? And to make it more bizarre, have them both be fine with the arrangement. Things that make me go hmmm. Continue reading

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@MilaJ and Thoughts on Physical Beauty

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Because…The Internet. I knew of Mila J before seeing the photograph that seemed to stir quite the little storm on social media. Anytime there’s an attractive woman exposing a bit of skin there’s always an overwhelming response especially on Instagram. The savagery of men’s thirst and desperation knows no bounds and I can’t lie, I was once guilty of such a violation myself. I follow Singers, Fitness Models, Fashion Models, and Strippers but I never comment nor like the photos (well not too often) anymore because it just feels whack and I’m not for joining in for group cat calling. Continue reading

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